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How to not be "that" parent on game day

Allen Hamilton
1/12/2023
2 minutes

Oh no, here it goes...

Screaming.

 

Red in the face.

 

Arms flailing in the air.

 

Sound familiar?

 

Nope, it's not a toddler in need of a nap … it's an adult. It's that soccer parent.

 

While this would never be you, today's post provides a few quick reminders on how to ensure you are positively contributing to your player's soccer experience.

 

Here's your checklist:

 

Be supportive:

 

Show your child that you are proud of them and that you believe in them. Cheer them on, give them a high-five or a hug after the game, and let them know that you love them.

 

Avoid criticizing:

 

It can be easy to get caught up in the moment and criticize your child's performance, but this can be detrimental to their confidence and self-esteem. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of their game and offer constructive feedback.

 

Be a good role model:

 

Children learn by example, so be sure to set a good one. Show good sportsmanship, respect the coach and officials, and refrain from yelling or becoming overly competitive.

 

Be prepared:

 

Make sure your child has everything they need, such as water, snacks, and appropriate clothing, before the game. This will help ensure they are comfortable and focused during the game.

 

Be patient:

 

Remember that your child is still learning and developing their skills. Be patient and understanding with them, and don't put too much pressure on them to win.

 

Respect the coach's decisions:

 

The coach is responsible for leading the team and making decisions about playing time and positions. Respect their decisions and don't try to second-guess them.

 

Encourage your child to have fun:

 

Soccer is a game,and it's important for children to have fun and enjoy playing. Encourage yourchild to have fun and enjoy the game, regardless of the outcome.

 

Show gratitude to the coach and volunteers:

 

Acknowledge the hard work and dedication of the coach and volunteers. They put a lot of time and effort into making sure the game and the team runs smoothly.

 

Look, I know as well as anyone that emotions can run high during a tight game. That passion and the competitive desire to win- to be the best - is essential to the sport. It's what drives the player's to show up and train, day after day.

 

But you are not the player. At least not anymore (my knees remind of that every time I go for a run).

 

You are a supporter, and your role is to create an environment that further ignites that passion and love for the sport - not just for your child, but for all of those on the field.

 

Forcing children to watch an adult temper tantrum is surely not the way.

 

Next time you're about to let that first "COME ON, REF" slip out…  keep these tips in mind and hopefully you'll keep yourself from becoming that parent.

 

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Allen Hamilton
Raised in Grapevine, Allen has been a member of the Texas soccer community for nearly 25 years. Since his playing days ended a decade ago, he's held roles both as a coach and club administrator helping to provide wonderful soccer experiences for the next generation of players and their families.
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